Accepting Yourself Unconditionally .

Accepting Yourself Unconditionally .

Your attitude toward yourself is determined largely by the attitudes that you think other people have toward you. When you believe that other people think highly of you, your level of self-acceptance and self-esteem goes straight up.The best way to build a healthy personality involves understanding yourself and your feelings.

Letting the Light Shine In.

This is achieved through the simple exercise of self-disclosure. For you to truly understand yourself, or to stop being troubled by things that may have happened in your past, you must be able to disclose yourself to at least one person. You have to be able to get those things off your chest. You must rid yourself of those thoughts and feelings by revealing them to someone who won’t make you feel guilty or ashamed for what has happened.

Become Aware of Your Feelings

The second part of personality development follows from self-disclosure, and it’s called self-awareness. Only when you can disclose what you’re truly thinking and feeling to someone else can you become aware of those thoughts and emotions. If the other personsimply listens to you without commenting or criticizing, you have the opportunity to become more aware of the person you are and why you do the things you do. You begin to develop perspective, or what Buddhists call “detachment.”

 Accept the Person You Are

Now we come to the good part. After you’ve gone through self-disclosure to self-awareness, you arrive at self-acceptance. You accept yourself for theperson you are, with good points and bad points, with strengths and weaknesses, and with the normal frailties of a human being. When you develop the ability to stand back and look at yourself honestly, and to candidly admit to others that you may not be perfect but you’re all you’ve got, you start to enjoy a heightened sense of self-acceptance.

Do an Inventory of Your Accomplishments

A valuable exercise for developing higher levels of self-acceptance involves doing an inventory of yourself. In doing this inventory, your job is to accentuate the positive and minimize the negative. Think of your unique talents and abilities. Think of your core skills, the things that you do exceptionally well that account for your success in your profession and in your personal life right now.

Think About Your Future

Think about your future possibilities and the fact that your potential is virtually unlimited. You can do what you want to do and go where you want to go. You can be the person you want to be. You can set large and small goals and make plans and move step-by-step, progressively toward their realization. There are no obstacles to what you can accomplish except the obstacles that you create in your mind.

Action Exercises

First, sit down with your spouse, or a good friend, and tell him or her about something that is troubling you and is still causing you unhappiness.

Second, develop perspective on your problem by standing back from it and imagining that it was happening to someone else. What advice would you give to that person?

Third, think continually about the good experiences and accomplishments you have enjoyed in the past. Remind yourself regularly that you are a pretty goodperson and you’ve done a lot of good things in your life.




Never too Late

‎’For what it’s worth, it’s never too late, or in my case too early, to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit… Start whenever you want.. You can change or stay the same. There are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. I hope you see things that stop you. I hope you feel things that you have never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life that you’re proud of and if you.”



There may be times

♥ There will be days, sometimes months or years, when life does not make sense to you. There may be times when you feel terribly afraid, awfully confused, or downright disgusted with yourself and/or your life. This is perfectly normal! All of us who are now “big girls and boys” have been there and done that! There will also be times when you feel misunderstood and alone. Never dwell on these things. Take time to listen to your heart, spend time with yourself. Avoid at all costs the temptation to place yourself in unhealthy, unproductive, and dishonorable situations just to avoid being alone with the depth of what you feel. The key is to know that no matter what else is going on in your life, you come first. You know what you need. If you have a good relationship with yourself, you will have all that you need to rise to any and every occasion. ♥




Thursdays Words of Wisdom

Is proud to have the courage to stand up for what’s right, regardless of who agrees.  It’s called integrity.  I make no apologies for having solid beliefs!



Thursdays Words…

Let Your Light Shine !

Dear Heavenly Father…

I humbly commit this day to honouring You. May the words of our mouths and the meditations of our hearts and souls be a pure and pleasing sight in Your sight. 
For You alone are our strength, our shield, our stronghold and our Redeemer. 
I humbly pray for those in need of Your Divine healing, for the sick and suffering for those in need of Your assistance and support to find jobs, to find opportunities in life, for those who are struggling in relationships, for those who experiencing struggles and hardships; 
Most of all, I pray for those who are who are lost, for those who are suffering physically and emotionally, for those who are being tested Spiritually, for those in need of Your Loving presence and comfort…May Your Grace and Mercy fall upon them, to give them Peace, Love, Joy and Happiness.Please help us to boldly share Your Loving Plan of Salvation with the sick, with the suffering, with Lost, and those who are experiencing storms and tribulations in their lives. 

This I seek and pray for In Jesus Mighty name….AMEN!!!





Life Is….

“I believe life is constantly testing us for our level of commitment, and life’s
greatest rewards are reserved for those who demonstrate a never-ending
commitment to act until they achieve. This level of resolve can move mountains, but it must be constant and consistent. As simplistic as this may sound, it is still the common denominator separating those who live their
dreams from those who live in regret.”



**Simple Life Strategy: Goal Setting**


Simple Life Strategy:  


8 Tips for setting goal


 1. Check that the gains will be big enough. If you set yourself a goal that doesn’t really make a difference to your life then what are the chances you’ll bother trying to achieve it? Pretty slim. Sounds simple but many people set goals with little meaning. So check in first that you really want to achieve the goal.


2. What’s the trade off? Before you set a goal ensure you’re aware of what you may need to give up in order reaching it. If what you’re set to sacrifice is more important to you than the goal its-self it’s unlikely you’ll bother to reach the goal.


3.Get specific. Make sure you have a clear way to measure your goal. I.e. Instead of a vague goal like “I want to lose weight’ – put a number to it “I want to lose 5llbs by November 5th.” Being specific gives you a clear idea of what success looks like and this acts as a powerful motivating force.


4. Put in place a list of steps that are required to reach your goal. A goal without steps is just a dream. Once you’ve qualified that the gains are big enough and you’re willing to do what it takes to reach the goal, the next step is to write an action plan with clear steps that will ensure you get to where you want to be.


5. Track your progress. Check in each week to monitor how you’re going. Set yourself small weekly goals and check in to ensure you’re on track. If you break down your goal to small weekly goals it doesn’t feel so scary – plus you’ll be motivated by your progress each week.


6.Give your goal a picture. Research has shown that the subconscious mind works best if it has an image to refer to. If you can think of what success will actually look like and get an image in mind then you’re more likely to reach your goal. E.g. in additional to “I want to lose 5llbs” you may want to add “I want to fit into my size 10 skinny jeans.” Your brain can imagine you in your skinny jeans and this will propel you forward to achieve.


7. Be disciplined. Reaching any goal requires a certain amount of discipline and will power. Don’t give up when the going gets tough. Push through those difficult moments knowing that you’re getting closer to your end goal. Discipline yourself to commit to regular activity that will move you closer to reaching that goal.


8. Be positive. Believe that you can do it! Don’t focus on the negatives. Your brain doesn’t have an image for words like ‘won’t’ & ‘don’t’ so when you say things like ‘I don’t want to fail’ your brain has to actually picture you failing which then takes your focus off your goal.





**Price Check on Patience**

**Price Check on Patience**

Why does it always seem

That when I’m in a hurry
Someone comes along
To set things in a flurry?

Now it can be so easy
To let impatience out
Just let ’em know we’re angry
And really scream and shout.

But wouldn’t it be better
When time is in a bind
To follow Christ’s example
Showing patience; being kind.